Comments on: Communication Problems Often Masked as Child Behavior Problems

By: Abimbola Jamgbadi

Abimbola Jamgbadi — Fri, 16 Apr 2010 17:28:52 +0000

Thanks Chris, This a wonderful strategy, l never thought about.

By: Abimbola Jamgbadi

Abimbola Jamgbadi — Fri, 16 Apr 2010 11:28:52 +0000

Thanks Chris, This a wonderful strategy, l never thought about.

By: KateRiJor

KateRiJor — Mon, 29 Mar 2010 23:47:53 +0000

I find it hard to avoid leading my 2 year old into an answer because right now he answers mainly with “yeah” or “no” – e.g. Did you have fun at child care today (“yeah”) and if I want details, I have to ask specific questions – e.g. Did you play in the sandpit (“yeah”) and the only way to tell if it's a geniune response is how enthusiatic he is… any tips on how to get him to volunteer the information? He can say the words I think and he definitely understands.

By: Chris Thompson

Chris Thompson — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 17:04:48 +0000

I'll second what Miriam suggested. I've used EFT successfully in the past and I have absolutely no doubt that it would be effective in calming kids down when they are misbehaving. They must be willing to do the exercise, which involves tapping on various pressure points on the body (face, chest and fingers).

By: miriam

miriam — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 16:57:15 +0000

Did you ever hear of EFT4kids?
I started using it in schools where I live-in Israel.
It teaches the kids to tap at the magic points and calm themselves
There is an excellant book called “The palace of possibilities”
Look for it

By: lor

lor — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 10:44:04 +0000

I love it! I totally agree. Tune into your child, ask them questions, listen and respect what they have to say about things. It might seem a small upset to you but to them it can be huge.

By: Antonio

Antonio — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 15:57:48 +0000

It worked with my 9 year old son. At breakfast time, he does not want to drink a small glass of orange juice after asking him to have some. Usually, I insist to do so and finally he drinks some.
I thought it was a good ocasion to try a double bind. So I asked him: do you want an orange juice of one or two oranges?. His short answer was: of one orange.
I gave him the glass with approximately the same amount of juice as usually and he drunk it. No more verbal exchanges on the matter.
It was the first time I did not have to insist.

By: Chris Thompson

Chris Thompson — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 23:23:55 +0000

Sounds to me like you've just discovered that she has connected teeth brushing with going to school, and it sounds like school is the issue. Start by asking more questions about what she likes and dislikes about school. If you ask the right questions, you'll discover a lot of new information.

By: Chris Thompson

Chris Thompson — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 23:22:30 +0000

Thanks a lot for your comment. In addition to “why” questions, remember to ask questions with “what”, or “how” or something other than why. You'll often get more specific information from your kids (or anyone, for that matter) if you avoid asking “why”.

By: Chris Thompson

Chris Thompson — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 23:21:22 +0000

There are lots of suggestions in my audio course on how to use language to overcome this. My blog post was not meant to be a solution to every problem – just a way to think differently.