My detailed review of “The Total Transformation®” Program by James Lehman
by Chris Thompson
Are you dealing with a an obnoxious or abusive child? The Total Transformation Program, by James Lehman, is something that you should take seriously. Total Transformation is designed to help parents who have obnoxious or abusive kids from the age of about 6 through to the teenage years. As you can tell, my own website and audio program is geared towards the toddler years and early school years (i.e. about 2-6).
The Total Transformation program brings you a set of solutions that is very different from what I teach. The language skills that I teach are very useful, but beyond age 6 I would tell you that obnoxious and abusive behavior requires a set of tools beyond what I’m selling. My audio program for parents of toddlers is really geared towards the types of problems that almost every parent faces. Total Transformation is geared towards the types of problems that you hope you never have.
My wife and I have reviewed the entire Total Transformation Program in order to find out if it was something we could recommend to our readers. I can tell you that we were more than impressed. This course will help you. Sure, it is not cheap, but they have an offer in place where you can get it free. See below. However, just imagine that you don’t take the problems with your son or daughter seriously enough. Is your child heading towards a life of abusing others, or being involved in crime? If you could prevent this would you do almost anything to prevent it? Would you even question the cost – especially if you knew you could grab a copy for free? I know I wouldn’t.
So what does James Lehman bring to the table that will help you? First of all, he was the type of kid that you could be now dealing with. He was abandoned by his parents when he was two years old. He was found by his future parents, who went on to adopt him. He began to exhibit oppositional and defiant behavior at home and in school. Eventually he quit school and left home to live on the streets of New York City. He drifted into a life of drug abuse, crime, and served time in prison.After more than 6 years in various prisons, he was given a chance to get involved in an accountability-focused treatment program. This entire experience changed (and probably saved) his life. He went on to get a Bachelor’s Degree in Social Work, continued working with children and families, and went on to earn a Master’s Degree in the same field. He has spent over 30 years working with troubled youths and their families. There is something to be said for this type of experience. When my wife and I listened to everything that James had to say in his program, it became clear that he is speaking from experience.
One of the key concepts in The Total Transformation Program is accountability for behavior. James teaches parents to get kids to take responsibility for their actions. Here’s a simple example. Say that your son, Johnny, gets mad because you won’t let him go to a party. So he punches a hole in the wall. James teaches you work with your son so that he understands that he is responsible for his behavior. He can be mad all he wants. But his behavior is what matters.
Another key concept – perhaps THE most important part of the whole program – is the idea of teaching kids how to solve their own problems. James is 100% correct when he says that behavioral problems arise almost always because the kid does not have a proper way to solve his own problems. Johnny punched a hole in the wall because he was mad. In this program you will learn how to teach Johnny to find better solutions to his problem. You will learn how to recognize what the problem really is, and you’ll be equipped to teach Johnny how to solve it. Once kids can solve their own problems, they have earned their golden keys to a brighter future.
The entire audio program is very engaging and easy to follow. My wife and I found ourselves looking at each other saying “Wow, that was a great point he just made”. This happened frequently. The experience that James offers you is something you can’t afford to miss out on if you are going through problems with your kids.
Before we listened to this program we read a few online reviews and various comments in online forums. Some people who had obviously not used the program tried to justify their decision by saying they heard it was about “tough love”. I have to tell you this couldn’t be further from the truth. I would say that the program is very matter of fact. If you consider that to be tough love, then maybe you need to toughen up a bit and realize that kids who have soft parents are going to learn to walk all over people. If you are too soft to ask good questions, and to be a coach to your child, then you’re setting your kid up for an unsuccessful future. If you are reading this then I know you have a better future in mind for your kid. Good. Your kid deserves better.
The Total Transformation Program really is a complete set of lessons. You’ll learn things such as:
- The real causes of obnoxious and abusive behavior
- Ineffective parenting roles that cause your child to ignore you, or disobey you
- Parenting roles that lead to accountability
- The 27 tools you can use to change your child’s behavior right now
- What’s blocking your child from solving his or her problems (the faulty thinking)
- Exactly what to do when your child acts out
- How to anticipate problems and stop them dead in their tracks
You Can Actually Get The Total Transformation for Free
Listen – this program is VERY good. The company that sells it is called Legacy Publishing Company. I’ve checked them out and they are a great company with great service. Now they’re even offering you a way to get James Lehman’s entire program for free (yes, seriously). All you have to do is agree to send in feedback on the program and you won’t have to pay for it. But, they seem to be limiting this to the first 1000 people, so I recommend jumping on it before the offer is gone. When you visit their website here you’ll see the offer staring you in the face. If you don’t see it, that means it’s gone.
With an offer like this (and a credible company backing it up), you and I both know that there is no excuse to sit around doing nothing. Bad behavior just doesn’t fix itself. Just order the program and use it in your home. You’ll be glad you did.
It is truly hard to find anything negative to say about the program. After the first CD my wife and I said to each other “Ok, everything he said made sense but I don’t feel like I know what I’m supposed to do differently”. But here’s the magic. James eases you into the entire program. He doesn’t ask you to bite off more than you can chew in the first CD. But as you continue with the program the guidance he gives is a gold mine.
Some of our blog entries on this program:
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