The Total Transformation Program is ideal for parents dealing with problem kids. Those of you who follow this blog know that I offer an audio program for dealing with toddlers. The Total Transformation Program by James Lehman is a fantastic system to help you deal with troubled kids beyond the toddler years.
My blog entry on lesson 2 taught you a little bit about what it means to have an ineffective parenting approach. In lesson 3, you will learn what constitutes effective parenting roles and how to use them to help your child change his behavior.
It is the job of the parent to act as a leader and teach their kids how to problem solve, take responsibility and develop social skills. It is important for the parent to be clear, willing and have respect for a child’s potential.
The Training and Coaching Role is about teaching kids by example. Parents can model behavior they want to see their child learn. Think of the parent as the “trainer” for the skills the child needs to learn to become accountable.
The Problem Solving Role helps kids identify goals and obstacles. It is important for the parent to make sure the goal is specific, tangible and achievable. Parents can help their kids develop strategies to overcome any obstacles.
The Limit Setting Role establishes and maintains parental authority. This is done by establishing limits. These limits help kids to understand how they are expected to behave.
Learning and using these effective parenting techniques with your kids will ensure that your home is filled with accountability. Be patient with yourself and your kids – transformation takes practice. It is the responsibility of the parent to support, direct and understand their child as they develop a new sense of independence.