The Total Transformation Program by James Lehman is an amazing system to help parents deal with troubled kids. Those of you who follow my blog know that I offer an audio program for dealing with toddlers. The Total Transformation Program is a great program for parents dealing with older kids.
Have you ever caught yourself assuming things without knowing all of the facts? Maybe you expect the worst from your kids all the time or feel like nothing will ever change for your family.
These are just a few examples of faulty thinking which is very common in today’s world. Faulty thinking involves errors in the way we think about situations and/or people, which don’t help us to solve any problems. Lesson 5 explores the importance in understanding faulty thinking and gives parents the tools needed to correct it.
“All or nothing thinking” is a perfect example of faulty thinking. This is often referred to as “black or white thinking.” This kind of thinking is very closed, it leaves no room for a discussion. Teens are especially susceptible to this way of thinking. They need to be taught the value of different perspectives.
“Mind Reading” happens when you project or anticipate your kids thoughts and feelings about a situation. For instance, you tell your son you are going to visit his aunt. You say you know he has no interest in going with you because it is boring, but you want him to come anyway. This leaves the child feeling negative towards you and sets the situation up for conflict. Instead try to give your child the opportunity to respond positively to the situation.
Parents often fall in the trap of the “Blame Game”. We have all been guilty at one time or another of turning an issue around and putting people on the defensive. This proves to be a real waste of time. Too much energy is spent on blaming yourself or someone else for a real or imagined problem.
I hope that I have peaked your interest. In lesson 5 you will learn to recognize when you or your kids are resorting to faulty thinking. You will learn to appreciate the reasons why faulty thinking is an ineffective parenting approach. Most importantly, you will learn how to make the changes in your thinking that promotes healthy problem solving skills in your kids.