Comments on: Yelling At Your Kids Takes Away Your Power http://talkingtotoddlers.com/yelling-at-your-kids-takes-away-your-power.htm Dealing with the Terrible Twos and Beyond Wed, 18 Apr 2012 17:01:51 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Rina http://talkingtotoddlers.com/yelling-at-your-kids-takes-away-your-power.htm/comment-page-1#comment-9695 Rina Fri, 07 Aug 2009 08:17:01 +0000 http://talkingtotoddlers.com/yelling-at-your-kids-takes-away-your-power.htm#comment-9695 I totally agree. I think that when we, parents, get angry we lose control just as our kids. So the real question here is how to teach ourselves to not lose control? How do we teach this to our children before we master it ourselves? How can a parent stay clam when a child is doing something really obnoxious (like making a certain noise, or screaming in the car or hitting his sibling etc.)? I totally agree. I think that when we, parents, get angry we lose control just as our kids.
So the real question here is how to teach ourselves to not lose control? How do we teach this to our children before we master it ourselves?
How can a parent stay clam when a child is doing something really obnoxious (like making a certain noise, or screaming in the car or hitting his sibling etc.)?

]]> By: Chris Thompson http://talkingtotoddlers.com/yelling-at-your-kids-takes-away-your-power.htm/comment-page-1#comment-2598 Chris Thompson Mon, 27 Apr 2009 00:30:56 +0000 http://talkingtotoddlers.com/yelling-at-your-kids-takes-away-your-power.htm#comment-2598 I think that calmly issuing a warning is exactly the right thing to do. I have some tactics that I teach in my audio course on how to threaten punishment that build on this. It is *smart* to pick the punishment together. That gives your child ownership of the punishment. My only concern is that the punishment you are using may anchor a fear of water into your son's unconscious. Does he swim, will he put his face in the water during bathtime? if NOT, then I would change this punishment. If YES, then you're fine with it. I think that calmly issuing a warning is exactly the right thing to do. I have some tactics that I teach in my audio course on how to threaten punishment that build on this.

It is *smart* to pick the punishment together. That gives your child ownership of the punishment. My only concern is that the punishment you are using may anchor a fear of water into your son’s unconscious. Does he swim, will he put his face in the water during bathtime? if NOT, then I would change this punishment. If YES, then you’re fine with it.

]]> By: Miki http://talkingtotoddlers.com/yelling-at-your-kids-takes-away-your-power.htm/comment-page-1#comment-2450 Miki Tue, 14 Apr 2009 09:22:44 +0000 http://talkingtotoddlers.com/yelling-at-your-kids-takes-away-your-power.htm#comment-2450 ok, so what do you do now that you have stopped yelling... but you have managed to teach this bad behavior to your 5 yr old son, who uses it to tell his 2 yr old brother what to do. yesterday i tried a new tactic. i told 5yr old that everytime his tone/face/fists take on the anger that he is feeling he will get a warning (calmly from me) after which if he does not change his behavior he will get a 'punishment'... which we chose together - and that was to have his face wiped with water (he doesn't like water on his face and yet he understands that when he washes his face on his own he calms down) so this is our new trial... what do you think? ok, so what do you do now that you have stopped yelling… but you have managed to teach this bad behavior to your 5 yr old son, who uses it to tell his 2 yr old brother what to do.

yesterday i tried a new tactic. i told 5yr old that everytime his tone/face/fists take on the anger that he is feeling he will get a warning (calmly from me) after which if he does not change his behavior he will get a ‘punishment’… which we chose together – and that was to have his face wiped with water (he doesn’t like water on his face and yet he understands that when he washes his face on his own he calms down) so this is our new trial… what do you think?

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